Islam was sent as a religion that would end all the wrong practices among the Arabs at that time. That included burying daughters alive, just as they were born. Islam gave women, the rights and standard equal to that of any man in this world. This ended the oppression over women and they were actually given the right to choose their life partners. It’s very sad to see that even though we have Islam now and we call ourselves ‘Muslims’, still there are people who marry their minor daughters, without their will, to men who are about 10 years older than them.
“O ye who believe! Ye are forbidden to inherit women against their will” – Surah Al Nisa (19). It is very clear that taking a woman in your nikaah against their will is forbidden and ‘forbidden’ ACTUALLY MEANS HARAM! So forcing your daughters to marry a guy they don’t want to marry is HARAM too because, it is against their will. Still, if you are successful in forcibly marrying your daughter to a man of your will, and then that man turns out to be a bad person and beats up your daughter, would you want to live with the fact that you destroyed the life of your daughter with your very own hands? I guess no.
Let them choose their partners for God’s sake! If Allah has given women the right to choose then who are we to stop them? And before all this, let them have their education first. Complete education for daughters should be the top priority for parents. Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W.W) said, ‘The Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) said: “The seeking of knowledge is obligatory for every Muslim.” – (Tirmidhi, Hadith 74). This word ‘knowledge’ here means the knowledge provided in the Quran as well as any other sort of knowledge. Allah has sent us in this world with a unique gift within us. It is our duty to discover what it is and then use it in this world; and to discover that ‘gift’, we need knowledge! Would you want to be responsible for your daughter’s failure in this matter?
Let your daughters study, let them say ‘yes’ or ‘no’ to your choice for them; just don’t force them. Do your daughters a favor, LET THEM LIVE!
Written by: Taha Hissam Mirza