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What is it like to live with anxiety

A student won’t attend the first day of her collage, as she knows there will be new people asking her to introduce herself. The thought of meeting new people scares her. What if she says something wrong? What if someone laughs at the way she is dressed? In the classes, the professors will ask her to introduce herself to everyone. Every head will turn in her direction. She will mumble and the professor will smile encouragingly, making it worse. So, she will skip the first day.

Another person sits in the front of phone and torments because he is afraid to call a stranger and ask about the package he hasn’t received. What if he dials the wrong number? What if the next person is in a bad mood and doesn’t wants to be disturbed? He will wait for another week for his package.

Apprehension. Stress. Edginess. Agitation. Fear. Everyday life is like this. Social anxiety makes you feel all this. It is a discomfort or fear when a person is in social interactions that involve a concern about being judged or evaluated. The fear of criticism or rejection results in insecurities that they are never good enough.





Social anxiety exists, and it makes various lives hard. Having social anxiety is not being shy but a situation where an induvial will sweat, shake and have actual breathing problems. Telling someone to, “stop being ungrateful, get over it!” won’t help them, but it surely will push them to isolate themselves and back off from asking help. When just a stomach ache rushes you to the hospital then why not the ragged breathing and constant fear?




Unfortunately, in our society speaking about mental illness is considered a taboo.  Without any kind of education, knowledge and treatment, social anxiety continues to wreak havoc throughout many lives. Adding to the dilemma, when a person with social anxiety finally gets up the nerve to seek help, the chances that they can find it are very, very slim.  So let’s talk about social anxiety. Don’t get angry over your daughter if she refuses to call. Get what your friend needs from the grocery store.  Listen to them.

For anyone out there suffering from social anxiety, you are not alone. Don’t feel your piece of social puzzle won’t fit, because it can and it will. Take a timeout. Eat a balanced diet. Limit your caffeine intake. Get enough sleep. Exercise. Hold your breath for 2 seconds and exhale for 7 seconds. Be patient. And love yourself.

Mahnoor Sarwar

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